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aw maaaaan, I was doing so well with not chewing on my nails and I just looked down and realized I tore my thumb the heck up while reading
I made myself sad with that hypothetical paranormal investigator story last night
the idea of Max just kind of. keeping quiet about it. because he’s pretty sure it’s not brain problems but if he tells anyone they will assume it is, since he’s already been diagnosed with things.
I am upset about this I could never write this story because this part would be too upsetting
- there are actually a lot of fairy tales with male protagonists
- the wizard of oz is about a woman. a lot of women actually.
- L. FRANK BAUM WOULD BE SO DISAPPOINTED IN YOU
l. frank baum would bee ssssooo disappointed!!! he’d be like where’s my suffragette wife and mother in law this will not dO
the fact that some kids feel so uncomfortable about going to school each day that they get depressed and sick is an obvious sign that something is not right
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oh my god people kink shaming “that’s wrong, you know”
no, what would be wrong is acting on that sort of kink with someone who couldn’t consent
drawing sexy pictures and acknowledging them as fantasies is pretty much not wrong at all
In my experience, acknowledging things is better for your health in the long run than suppressing them, and that includes potentially dangerous kinks.
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can we please not use ableist language while talking about gun control and the shootings
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I kind of…really hate plots and drama that rely on people not communicating effectively. Like. I know people don’t always communicate effectively in the real world (haha hi hello I am TERRIBLE at this most of the time) but. Having plots that would be extremely easy to avoid if anyone involved just went “hey, by the way” ALL THE TIME is really grating.
Like Xander leaving Anya at the altar. It’s not like either of them hadn’t been having doubts! But instead of talking about it and maybe putting off the wedding, they both got up to THE DAY OF THE WEDDING without saying anything.
All the alpha kids seem to do this too and I just as;dfkljasdfa can you talk about things without letting them build up and get to a horrific boiling point first? Ever? Please?
Post racial America, y’all!!!
america ain’t racist!
god, the sweet sweet rage of bitter ass white people. fuck each and everyone of these assholes
Amanda Palmer is beyond doing problematic shit, she’s problematic and awful
Cosigned. She’s awful.
Some proof, if you need convincing: When called out on ableism by the blog Feminists with Disabilities/FWD/Forward, Amanda Palmer responded with total lack of accountability. The second link includes a link to a television talk show interview that is especially illustrative of Palmer’s dismissive attitude toward the bloggers who dared critique her new musical project.
BECAUSE ART is not a valid justification for putting together a performance that marginalizes or distorts the experiences of the disabled (or any other group that has been historically oppressed/silenced), nor is BECAUSE ARTISTS PROVOKE. If you can’t come up with a carefully-composed and thoughtful answer to a group of critics who suggest that what you’re doing is offensive or oppressive (whether intentional or not), then you’re not thinking hard enough about the work you’re creating and its relationship with the social world into (and with) which you’ve woven it.
One need not read “Can the Subaltern Speak?” to know that it’s extremely problematic for a member of a dominant group to attempt to represent the experiences of people outside of that group. For example: if I, a solidly middle-class white American woman, published a profitable novel from the perspective of a woman of color who has spent her whole life in the favelas around Rio di Janiero, I’d be (rightfully!!!) accused by critics of ventriloquizing and cultural appropriation because I can’t know what it’s like to be raised and to raise one’s family in a favela, or to have grown up in Rio, or to be a person of color. Even if my portrayal of the narrator were fully humane and carefully researched in the favelas, I’d still be using my privileged position to speak for someone whose voice is rarely heard (and in doing so I’d turn a financial profit for myself, which would make it especially icky). I’m sure that if I were dumb enough to write such a novel, my privileged position would come through in the language somewhere, even after careful revisions, via inaccuracies, distortions, and presumptions. That’s what Evelyn Evelyn was: appropriation of the experiences of disabled people for the profit of two (temporarily?) able-bodied artists, and it wasn’t even particularly nuanced or well-crafted. It was tacky and meant to shock in order to generate profit, and that’s incredibly gross.
It’s possible (if difficult for many) to accept criticism gracefully, and it’s possible to take the time to work out the bugs in your project/piece of art so that it doesn’t reproduce narratives that actively oppress people. Amanda Palmer failed to do both of these things.
Plus: she doesn’t make particularly interesting music, either, not that that would exonerate her from any of this.
Yeppp, and she is racist, transphobic, and perpetuates rape culture as well. Ughh. And I agree, her music isn’t that great, either.
All of the above
And, as I will continue to mention, because it needs to get out there, when her partner, who was a recovering drug addict had a relapse, she faked a suicide attempt to let him know how he made her feel.
A few years later he committed suicide.
She recorded his reaction when he found her, pretending to be dead, and years later she used it on an album.
Guess what my opinion is of people who use suicide threats to make vulnerable people feel bad
She told the audience this at a concert I went to of hers. It was the last time I will ever give her my money.
This always needs to get passed around. And I mean, I actually DID like her music for quite a while, and appreciated some of the less problematic things she did. So it’s not about “well, you don’t like her anyway”. No, I was DEEPLY ANGRY because of these things BECAUSE I’d felt like we were on the same side, so to speak.
I think it’s worth noting that Evelyn Evelyn isn’t just appropriative because they’re conjoined - the whole story is this long dramatic thing about child pornography and sort of persuading these deeply anxious girls into the limelight while also using that angle as an explanation of why they don’t appear much (since it wasn’t real). Which wouldn’t have been funny or appropriate or NECESSARY TO THE ACT even if everyone had KNOWN from the beginning that it was her and Jason, but not everyone did.
I don’t think I’ve heard the racist bit though, or at least I’ve ignored her for so long at this point that I’ve forgotten it.
That is a link to a video of her telling the fake suicide story. This was taken at a concert I attended. I wanted to provide proof, in case anyone thought I was exaggerating. trigger warnings for discussion of suicide, faking suicide, and abusive behaviour towards vulnerable people.
woah holy shit
I knew she was an ableist, appropriative, self-absorbed jerk, but I didn’t know she was outright abusive to at least one former partner like that.
That is actually the most disgusting thing I’ve heard at least all week. Gross gross gross.
What I can’t get over is she has been this awful, horrible person for years and years and yet it is still a surprise to people.
But for all the horrible, horrible shit she has done, this story has to be the worst (that we’ve heard so far…). It is really fucking heinous. I mean, the depth of self-centredness required to do something like that is breathtaking. Puke.
How….how….I have no words. Amanda Palmer makes me want to renounce being a human being.
(NOTE: Also, I’ve heard Amanda has pulled sizeist behavior before but I’m having problems finding sources to detail that. Google has been of no help. It seems pretty gross she’d say something sizeist and then fight about how her old record company was body policing.)
I don’t know if there’s more, but I saw a bit of her sizeism on twitter… I believe she cracked a fat joke and then when critted for it blathered on a bit about how she used to be fat but then just did diet and exercise so it’s an easy fix and no one needs to get emotional about it.
Also, her gross whorephobia is always forgotten. Friday “from the perspective of a truck stop hooker” makes me want to puke.
Plus in person her behaviour is gross and sleazy, she takes advantage of her celebrity to grope the breasts of any woman around her, particularly if there’s a camera nearby. Experienced it, bunch of my friends experienced it.
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It is amazing how many awful things you can know about a person and then still read something and go, “Wow, I had no idea she was that bad.” There is no upper bound on terrible, hurtful behavior. This a barrel without a bottom.
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I’m trying to ride my bike more, but I haven’t been riding regularly enough to affect my endurance. So I’m better at steering, but I am still FUCKING EXHAUSTED and jelly-legged when I get home.
Funny what a summer of sitting on your ass when you are used to walking several miles every day will do to your fitness.
Why can’t they be beautiful, stylish, and curvy?
Why to be considered “designer dolls” must they be so skinny?
That’s, like, Cruella deVille and Astro Boy doing Disney cosplay.
THANK YOU. Like what, fat women can’t be stylish? No. Stop. Their outfits are really pretty, but they are not made for Ursula and the Queen of Hearts because those skinny little dolls are NOT WHAT THOSE CHARACTERS LOOK LIKE.
where the fuck is you, romeo
NO IT’S WHY
AS IN “WHY THE FUCK IS YOU ROMEO”
WHY WHY WHY WHY WHY
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White people: but why can’t I cosplay a person of color IT’S NOT LIKE I HAVE ANY OTHER OPTIONS WHATEVER IT’S NOT BLACKFACE IT’S JUST ME BEING MORE AUTHENTIC
I just. Ugh. Dear fellow white people: if you ever say anything like this sentiment to/around me, I swear to god.
Like, oh no, people think you’re a racist, insensitive dick if you cosplay Korra! WHO ELSE COULD YOU POSSIBLY EVER COSPLAY GOD IT’S LIKE ALL
BADASS FICTIONAL CHARACTERS ARE NON-WHITE wait, no it’s not, and you’re an asshat.
ugh, and all these people up on damnlayoffthebleach’s tumblr like “oh but no one says it’s fucked up to cosplay an animal character” ….did you seriously just compare poc to animals. Seriously. Did you just do that and at no point think, “Wait, maybe I shouldn’t compare a living, breathing, feeling human being TO A FUCKING ANIMAL?”
I don’t know how people of color deal with this, because oh my god. Oh my god. These fucking douchebags.
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