One day at school, a classmate showed me a video on his phone. I must have been 14 or 15. He thought it was hilarious, for no reason other than shock value. I refused to watch it but he continued, laughing each time, without regard for anything except his childish sense of humour.
In the video, women were being violently unclothed by a man.
And people think this is funny.
Recently, when a GIF of a similar attack that left a woman naked in the street, I was reminded of just how disgusting the video was. This despicable act supports one conclusion:
These men think they’re entitled to women’s bodies.
They think they’re entitled to buy pictures of women’s bodies. They think they’re entitled to expose women’s bodies and record them for fun. Ultimately, they’re not far from thinking they’re entitled to have sex with women’s bodies without their consent. All of these problems are connected with that sense of entitlement that society plays to on a daily basis. Women are likened to products in advertising, a sign of wealth in music videos and a silent object in pornography. Every aspect of our culture drips with the objectification that would lead to this video.
You cannot do anything to someone’s body as intimate as removing their goddamn clothing without their explicit consent. Without consent it’s sexual assault, and there is no doubt that this is sexual assault.
But consent is not the only issue here.
“Women, never wear tube tops or skirts without pantyhose/leggings.”
“Wear a fucking bra and some decent panties. Take a self defense class. Be aware of your surroundings. >_> No sympathy.”
“If you’re wearing a tube top like that, you might as well be asking for it. Or naked. You might as well be naked.”
Once women become objects, blame is placed on them for wearing clothes that men can attack them in, rather than the men who are so obviously to blame.
‘Rape culture’ is defined as when ‘prevalent attitudes, norms, practices, and media condone, normalize, excuse, or encourage sexualized violence.’ This video is condoned because it is hosted on a website and freely promoted. It is normalised because people find it funny. It is excused because we blame the women for their own assault.
And it is encouraged because men and women of the internet think sexual assault of women is a joke.
My writing does not incriminate all men, it incriminates a culture that allows these attitudes to thrive among men. Men assaulted these women, and men have laughed at them. There is a power dynamic by which these man think they can have a woman’s body and take her dignity from her. They believe she is property. They believes she is just a plaything of his fantasies, not a heart and soul encased in that dehumanised body.
Women have long been the slaves of men. NOT the other way around.
This did not happen in isolation of that hierarchy, because it has never happened with roles reversed. No woman has ever taken such a sense of entitlement to the other extreme with men, because it’s patriarchy in practice. Nor do women feel they can assault other women for the fun of exposing their bodies.
But men do. Rather than questioning why feminists generalise about misogyny, men should be questioning what grounds they have to do so. When rape occurs more in our countries than many others in Europe and Asia, we have to start questioning why these men think they have the right.
Men that do not rape and assault are not the problem, and are not discussed here.
Whether it is real or fake is irrelevant when you consider that it could happen. It takes every boundary of human decency and breaks it. It is rape, it is such a deeply damaging and dehumanising act. It tells her she is nothing but a joke, that her body is public property, and that as a woman she does not deserve to be left in privacy and dignity.
I never want to see this happen again. I never want another man to grow up thinking he can get away with this. That he should do this. That by doing this he is innocent, funny or anything but a sick excuse for a human being.
I never want another man to grow up thinking that he is entitled to a WOMAN’S FUCKING BODY.
But until that day we still have a hell of a lot more work to do.
Oh nothing, just making a chart of daily events in pokemon HeartGold and SoulSilver to post on the house bulletin board.
Oh nothing, just hula-hooping in the backyard with my dog.
Of having to defend feminism to people, so I am going to relay an argument from my favorite professor. This particular professor proposes an approach to counter someone who is attacking feminism or your stance in favor of such. ”The next time you are face to face with someone who is going to argue against feminism and it’s goals, just respond with ‘You know what? As far as I’m concerned feminism is the default position, feminism is the norm, the ethical mandate, the position one MUST have. So, if you are going to argue against feminism, do you realize what you have to do? This is what you have to do, you have to mount an argument in support of injustice and inequality. Can you do that? I’m not the one who has to defend feminism. YOU are the one who has to defend injustice and inequality, so go right ahead and try.’”
And in Spanish I pretty much don’t volunteer anything. In Linguistics I chime in sometimes on the big discussions. I shout out things in Psych occasionally. Mostly, though, I feel like I don’t have a whole lot to contribute so I just listen.
Today in my Principles of Dramatic Analysis (it’s a theatre class where we analyze plays, v exciting), we had a discussion of feminism in theatre.
So yeah, I actually contributed something today. Also I argued. A lot.
IT WAS AWESOME.
A serious and candid response to such questions would need to engage parents, academics, teachers, psychologists, those in charge of writing and implementing sex-education policy and all manner of consumers, young and old, irrespective of their gender or political agenda. And it would take into account the possibilities that pornography opens up for pleasure, adventure and subversion as well as assessing its potential for lasting harm and damage.
Neither would this be a forum predicated around the assumption that “bloke = violator; female = violated”. It would accept that, ultimately, pornography can be as empowering and fascinating as it can be destructive and injurious and that whatever its message, it’s too complex for a neat slogan on a T-shirt.” —Helen Walsh (Pornography is far too complicated to distil into a smart T-shirt slogan | The Observer) (via sexisnottheenemy)
I found this on 4chan. I don’t know how accurate it is, but they are usually pretty good about this stuff:
The girl is 5ft 6in-5ft 8in, blonde, eye color unknown, Caucasian
Youtube account owner’s name is Martin.
They live in Bugojno, use googlemaps.
This guy commented their youtube account and is a possible friend.
Possible facebook account of the youtube account’s owner
-> his mother: http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=705393951&ref=sgm
*** VIDEO ***
possible facebook of that bitch:
some anon asked martin for it.
if not, second suspect:
one of their friends:
possible camera man:
This is the Vrbas river the one from the video.
Reuploaded video, make it famous so someone will recognize her
Here is the 4chan thread about it: http://boards.4chan.org/b/res/268233306
This only has 100 notes, and the ‘PLEASE FIND INFORMATION ABOUT’ has 11,000, so please, spread this information.
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Holy Shit 4chan. Good job.